If ya know me….you know that I am typically someone who has it together at least I think I am..haha. I think it’s the Aquarius in me. I don’t sweat the small stuff, but as of lately a few things have transpired that legit through me off my game.
Well for one, my Granny died last month and it didn’t hit me until I got to the funeral. She loved to watch the NBA games, was a damn good cook and had an infectious laugh. I admit that I didn’t visit as much as I should but she never missed a graduation, birthday party or awards program. I guess I wasn’t around as much because my dad’s side of the family reminded me of him. I’ve realized that I am not truly over his death.
Then my stepdad has been sick and in and out of the hospital which is a lot on my mom. He’s doing better now but all of this was happening back to back.
But before those two incidents happened, I came to the conclusion that an event that I have hosted around the holidays for the last two years, wouldn’t be happening this year. The person I collaborated with just totally ghosted me after wasting my time for months. I made efforts to communicate but was ignored. I tried to pull it together at the last minute however, things weren’t going my way. Then the other day I saw that the person is doing an event on the exact day our event was suppose to take place.
I was hurt because this is an event I am passionate about. It wasn’t the fact that the person didn’t want to collaborate anymore….it’s that she wasn’t woman enough to have an adult conversation with me. I was also pissed…I was like nah sis gonna have to see me but I had to remember who I was. My family and friends had to remind me because I had forgot for a second. One of my friends advised me to use our good sis Bey’s mantra “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper”, however I was ready to be Solange on the elevator! But I remembered who I was…
You’re a BOSS, not because you own a business but because of how you handle situations. You’re a boss because of how you treat others and build relationships.
You’re an Empowerer. You genuinely encourage women to work together and collaborate. You’re a nice girl on the scene and behind the scenes.
And most importantly, you are hella strong. You don’t let anyone take you out of character. You are hard worker and you are resilient!
I want all of you to recite these same mantras to yourself if you are ever feeling off your game. Lord knows I had to repeat them many times. Remember who you are and never let anyone take you out of character.
Suit Jacket | Pretty Little Thing
Suit Culottes | Pretty Little Thing
Heels | Asos
Purse | Vintage (From my aunt in New York)
Photo Credit : The Optimist Dreamer