My First NYFW

Before moving to New York I would run to social media to view the recaps of New York Fashion Week and see all the street fashions. Now to be here and experience it, I am hooked and already plotting for next season! I started my experience off by attending the NADRI Jewelry preview with my cousin. They showed off their latest pieces with champagne, light bites, hand massages and what I enjoyed thoroughly, an aura reading. In my reading she said that I have the tools and should stop doubting myself amongst a few other things. It could’ve been a general reading that’s told to just about everyone but in that moment I could totally relate.

Next we headed to a Charlotte Tilbury event! The event was very interactive with panels, photo opps, a makeup studio, the best spritzer I have ever had, and light bites. I saw a bunch of the popular influencer it girls and guys and the party was fun overall. Most importantly I received some free products…a bunch actually! For my look because the summer is still summering, I decided to where this pink dainty top and keep it simple with some flare jeans, heels and a silver metallic bag.

The next day it was time for the Essence Fashion House. When I tell ya’ll the people understood the assignment! They were serving with the looks okay! The event was such really great. I enjoyed the panels, there were free cocktails, photo opps, and a marketplace to shop some designers. I definitely left feeling inspired. For my look I went with an oldie but goodie top that I have had for a few years from ASOS and a maxi denim skirt with heels.

The following day, I headed out to The Folklore Connect’s Showroom where I discovered so many Black Luxury Designers. The items were so bomb. The quality was up there and a lot of the pieces were affordable. There were also some that were size inclusive which I was shocked and pleased all at the same time. Here are the designers, check them out! AAKS, edas, Chee Lee Designs, Elexiay, Israella Kobla, Kadiju, Oríré, Rendoll, The Lulo Project, RP New York, SELFI, SHEKUDO, V. BELLAN, Wisdom, and Tejahn Burnett.

I then headed to the Pier to check out J Crew’s interactive event. They were celebrating 40 years. They gave out free beverages, pretzels, swag and a candle that smells delightful. On Monday, I ended my experience with a fashion preview by RP New York. I connected with the designer at the Showroom and she invited me to her fashion preview. Overall I had an amazing Fashion Week and can’t wait to see what the winter will look like! Thanks for reading!

From the Big Easy to the Big Apple

Whew, it’s been a minute since I’ve been here and I have returned with BIG NEWS. Your girl has officially relocated to New York City, Brooklyn to be exact!

Photo captured by Flash by Des

I know it came as a shock to many, but this is actually a move I have been wanting to make since college but I felt stuck.. a little scared even. I was scared of the unknown. Will my blogging take off there? Will I get a high paying job? What about my mom? She’s my best friend, I can’t leave her…omg!

However as I got older and life started to happen, family deaths and pandemics I realized life is extremely short and the fear of “what if” was more scarier. Year before last specifically, I became uncomfortable and I know it didn’t seem like it to everyone else but I was truly unhappy. I thought I was doing a great job of hiding it until one day my cousin Riesha asked me are you okay? I said yea, why do you ask. She said you seem unhappy…

And she was spot on! Although I had a good paying full-time job, my boss was great, the job was easy and I knew it like the back of my hand, I was still uneasy. I knew it was time for change! And now as I am living a dream that I once manifested, maybe not totally in the way I did..shoot I’m suppose to be living in a high rise apartment, being a full-time content creator and contributing to a fashion magazine haha.

But in all seriousness, I want you all to do the same. You have been feeling uneasy and it’s time to make a change. Whether it’s taking a faith move like I did, acting out on that business idea that’s been keeping you awake at night or doing more self-care. You deserve to create the life that you want. I saw a video the other day that said the longer you wait for the future you want, the less time you have to spend in it…and whew! If that doesn’t speak to you I don’t know what will!

I can’t wait to share all of the New York fabulousness with you all! Thanks so much for your constant support!

Outfit details are below.

Photo captured by Flash by Des

Top | Mogul Boutique (similar)

Shorts | Old Navy

Bag | Brandon Blackwood

Shoes | Betsey Johnson (similar)

Stop and Smell the Roses

Ya’ll I have been on go these last couple days, whether it’s creating content or working with my clients, my schedule has been jam packed. I realized that I didn’t schedule any ME time! Self-care is so important and I am starting to take it more seriously. We all should practice it whether it’s saying NO to things that don’t serve you, getting your nails done or yoga, it has to be done. My self-care this weekend included visiting the Waysides Flower Garage and Tiny Flower Truck on Magazine Street and making a custom bouquet. The owner Tippi was super sweet. If you are in New Orleans, you should definitely check it out.

Also as we tackle on the week, I want you to give yourself some grace. Even I need to get better at this so we can practice together.

“Due to personal reasons I am going to be ignoring anything that feels forced, fake, unnecessary, or unaligned with my growth/healing”.

- Author Unknown

Photos by The Nola Diaries

Vest : Eloquii

White Button Down Dress : Boohoo

White Boots : Old (similar)

The 5th Year

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Ya’ll I can’t believe it’s been 5 years. They say time flies when you are having fun and I have definitely been having fun. From working with big brands to getting to model for Target…yes Target in New York, this journey has been everything. Someone recently told me I should conduct an e-class on how to run a successful blog, I said aww ya’ll really think I have it all figured it out..haha. In all seriousness everyone’s journey is different but the one rule that remains the same across the board is BE CONSISTENT. You have to be consistent in order to grow.

Some people look and see this as just taking pictures, but a lot of work happens behind the scenes in order to produce these great photos. We all start off and still spend our money to purchase products or clothes and give you all our honest reviews. So if you enjoy seeing beautiful content and getting opinions on items before purchasing, show your favorite influencers some love.

That can be done in the form of liking their posts, subscribing to their blog or YouTube channels, sharing their posts, or clicking their affiliate links. Now mind you I love this so much that if I didn’t get a dime, I would still be serving ya’ll these good ole looks..haha. But this is a career for many including myself and this is how we pay our bills.

This year I wanted to celebrate my Blogaversary a little differently. I wanted to not only celebrate me but also the people who have played vital roles in helping my brand develop. My family, friends, blogger tribe, followers, and readers have all been an important part of this journey. So thank you! I decided to thank everyone by doing a photo shoot and a giveaway for my followers on Instagram.

I’ve always loved brunch but The JD Brunch Series’ initial mission was to bring bloggers and vloggers of color together over brunch to share ideas, collaborate, and ultimately support one another. I am so thankful for each and everyone of these ladies and all the other influencers who have constantly showed love to The JD Series. How poppin are my girls in their orange?! My top can be found here and the pants here.

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My family my family…I truly understand how blessed I am because not everyone has that strong family support system. My mom has always supported my creative dreams. She never forced me to pursue medicine or business, she always encouraged me to follow my dreams. A few people always ask about my confidence and how am I so confident, well I have my mom to thank for that. She has always built me up and told me how beautiful I was since a child.

My mom has always been my original hype girl and portable closet holder upper..haha. My brother was my first photographer. He’s dealt with all my “I don’t like that one, take it agains”. My precious “nanny baby” who is my number 1 supporter. She says she wants to be a “fasanista” (spelled incorrectly on purpose) like her nanny lol. She also likes to tell her mom to consult with me about her outfits..haha.but I think her mom does just fine! My auntie holding down the door at all my events and collecting tickets and money. My uncle holding down the security just in case anyone gets fresh and my cousins and Brother’s girl friend letting me boss them around while decorating.

I chose all white for my fam and they showed up and out. Like I was thoroughly impressed that they listened..haha. I was happy I could finally wear this beautiful dress that had been hanging in my closet since last year. You can find the dress here.

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Last and certainly not least, my girls! Some of these women I have been friends with since grade school and some I have met as an adult. No matter what I ask of them they do. If I am ever in a crunch, I can count on every one of these ladies. Trust me I know good friends are hard to find so I am blessed.

From being my first makeup artist for my shoots, to event promoters, worker bees to wearing themed outfits. These ladies always show up and out. How popping are they in their pink. I swear all these photos can be Essence covers!

Sorry this amazing suit is sold out.

Shoutout to my photographer Miesha and creative director Christian. I told them what I wanted and they took it and ran with it. I was so please on how this shoot came together.

I hope to continue to create and influence for years to come and I hope you all will continue on this journey with me.

We Gotta Talk

We have to talk ya’ll and the topic is mental health. Depression is affecting our community big time. We’re seeing it play out amongst celebrities, I mean look what happen to Tamar. People were like but she seemed so happy. Well you never know what someone is going through so you should always be kind. Many people suffer in silence and we need to encourage those affected by depression to speak up as well as having the courage to seek help for ourselves. In my Target post I shared that my friend passed away. What I didn’t share was how, on February 1, 2020 Chad took his own life. Chad struggled with depression and I was there for him as a listener, encourager, and supporter. Today I still struggle with wondering if that was enough.

Dr. Jerrilyn D. Dixson, LPC-S, RPT-S, BC-TMH, NCC

Dr. Jerrilyn D. Dixson, LPC-S, RPT-S, BC-TMH, NCC

I recently spoke with a colleague from the great Dillard University who reached out to me and she didn’t know how much I needed her encouraging words at that time. Dr. Jerrilyn D. Dixson, LPC-S, RPT-S, BC-TMH, NCC,  a true southern girl, originally from Jackson, Ms. is a licensed mental health therapist both licensed in Mississippi and Louisiana. She holds a bachelor’s of art degree in psychology from the city she considers to be her second home (NOLA). Sis is Mississippi raised and Louisiana made. She loved New Orleans so much that she decided to get her Master’s of clinical counseling degree from Loyola University. She also has a doctorate of professional counseling from Mississippi College located in Clinton, Ms.

She has been working in the field for 9-10 years , 6 of those years have been in private practice where she currently works. She is the founder and lead therapist of Progressive Therapy, LLC, where she provides a holistic approach to individual counseling services for individuals that deal with anxiety and depression as it relates to work- life balance challenges, life transitions, intergenerational trauma, trying to find purpose, and career struggle to aid individuals who struggle with anxiety and depression, she is also a certified integrative nutritional health coach which allows her to offer her clients dietary and supplementary options. So sis knows what she’s talking about!

I expressed to her my biggest problem was not knowing what to do if you have a friend or family member suffering from depression. Hopefully the information she provided will help you or someone you know going through a tough time.

Here’s how our conversation went:

Why do you think Mental Health Awareness is such a touchy subject for the black community?
I believe that culturally speaking the black community has always used strength and resilience as a means/effort to overcome obstacles or challenges. We don’t teach individuals that we are allowed to feel emotions or experience things that may affect us emotionally and mentally. We are taught to push through challenges. But these teachings force black people to experience shame and feel alone when they are experiencing challenges. We create shame around people who appear not to be “strong” or challenged by events in their life, therefore alienating those who may need to seek help from a therapist. In addition, we have been taught “what takes place in this family stays in this family”. Those philosophies limit us from finding comfort to reach out for help and further perpetuates cycles of unhealthy behaviors from one generation to the next. When we limit our awareness to just our family/friends we limit our access to learning and advancing our skills and perceptions, which aid with some of the challenges we experience.

Why is it harder for black males to express these issues?
I believe black men have been taught from a very young age to “suck it up”, get over it , and work through challenges. We often tell little boys, “ boys don’t cry”. We don’t realize how powerful the words we tell children are. This is then reinforced by coaches, teachers, and same sex peers, who respond negatively when they do express emotions. Those words begin to signify to that child when they are older that they are not allowed to express hard emotions and to instead “ push through it” and “work through it” . They learn they are responsible for fixing challenges, and sadly many find they “fix” them by medicating emotions through drinking, sex, or drugs. Black males, even fathers, glorify and ensure their son’s experience stereotypical male “rites of passage” experiences such as sex, drinking, or drugs. This is not the case with everyone but those experiences are typically more acceptable than men expressing their emotions/challenges. We do a disservice to young black male by not teaching & allowing them to both  feel and act on them.

What should someone do if they are contemplating suicide?
If you know someone who is challenged by suicidal ideation, it is important to take it serious, support that person by encouraging them to reach out to a mental health professional for assistances and in the immediacy assist that person in going to an emergency room where professionals there can evaluate and provide safety. Sometimes it can be intimidating to reach out to a therapist for the first time , therefore it is also ok to help them navigate their search or maybe even attend with them by staying in the waiting room or meeting them after their session to provide support. I also believe it is important to make it a priority to check in on that person regularly by setting up scheduled phone calls or outings to meet up.

Also be sure to pay attention to the warning signs. Too often we don't take suicide reports serious and it just increases the feelings that the individual is experiencing. Therefore , it is important to know what to look for. Here are a few things to consider: 

  • Making a suicide attempt

  • preparing for a suicide attempt—for example, collecting medications, trying to get access to a gun, researching ways to end their life or trying to buy tools to use in suicide

  • talking about suicide—saying things like, “I’m going to kill myself” or “People will be better off without me”

  • writing suicide notes, saying goodbye, giving away belongings or getting their affairs in order

  • showing big changes in their personality, routines, thinking or energy level—for example, not sleeping, pacing excessively, hearing voices or experiencing paranoia.

  • taking part in risky, violent or self-destructive behavior.


What resources are there for family and friends of someone who is experiencing depression?

There are several hotlines that can be used when a person is in immediate need such as below:  

 Call Youth Crisis Line at 1-800-442-4673

Call Department of Mental Health at 1-877-210-8513 

Call Lifeline at (800) 273-8255 (National Crisis Line)

Call 911 and/or go to the emergency room of your choice 

NAMI HelpnLine can be reached Monday through Friday, 10 am–6 pm, ET.1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or info@nami.org

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or Live Online Chat.

SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727)

You can also search for a therapist in your area on www.psychologytoday.com

Tons of literature on www.verywellmind.com

A few books to consider: 

Self-Compassion: The proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff

After Suicide Loss: Coping with Your Grief by Jack Jordan, Ph.D., and Bob Baugher, Ph.D.

Black Suicide: The Tragic Reality of America’s Deadliest Secret by Alton R. Kirk, Ph.D.

Lay My Burden Down: Unraveling Suicide and the Mental Health Crisis Among African-Americans by Alvin F. Poussaint, M.D., and Amy Alexander

Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families after a Suicide by Beverly Cobain and Jean Larch

Chad was the best dressed man I ever dated and I’m pretty sure I was the best dressed woman he ever dated..haha. He always dreamt of starting a clothing line and his older brother is carrying on his dream while promoting mental health awareness. Check out My Young Bull Society and show some support. 10% of the profits will be donated to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. The MYBSociety will work on bringing programs to help educate and promote mental wellness within the black community. Plus the shirts are super cute and the quality is really good.

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Mental health is nothing to play with ladies and gents. If you are dealing with depression please reach out to someone. There are people that love you. You can overcome whatever you are going through. Talk to ya’ll later.



1 T-Shirt Styled 5 Ways

You don’t have to have the most expensive pieces in your wardrobe to be a fashionista. Staple pieces can make all the difference. One piece I like to keep in my wardrobe is a fresh white tee. Cues White Tee by Dem Franchize Boyz. You can do so many things with this simple piece and I am showing you 5 Ways to Style a White Tee!

  1. Keep It Casual

    A denim jacket, biker tights, and tennis shoes is the perfect combination for a cool and comfy look. Wear this look for errands, hanging at the mall or a date at the park with your boo thang. Don’t forget to mask up!

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Mask : Forever 21

Denim Jacket : Old Navy

Biker Tights : Boohoo

Bottega Veneta Doupe : Amazon

2. Give Em A Lil Razzle Dazzle

Add a little pizzazz to the white tee by adding something extra on the bottom. These fringe pants are the perfect pairing for a cocktail party or fancy dinner!

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Earrings : Fashion Nova

Fringe Pants : Eloquii

3. Make it Chic

What’s more chic than a blazer?! Keep the colors light and bright for summer vibes. Complete the look with denim shorts and heels!

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Blazer : Forever 21 (similar)

Denim Shorts : Old Navy (similar)

Bottega Veneta Doupe : Amazon

Gold Heels : Pretty Little Thing (similar)

4. Sexy Mama

Satin dresses have been all the rave lately and I decided to put mine over a white tee. It’s a sexy look without trying too hard. A perfect date night look.

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Dress : Fashion Nova

Heels : Missguided (similar)

5. Cool Like That

Leather in the summertime?! Oh no she didn’t! Oh yes I did! I paired this corset top with my tee to give it a cool and luxe look. Add a statement necklace to complete the look!

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Corset : Fashion Nova

Jeans : Fashion Nova

I hope ya’ll enjoyed this post! Let me know if ya’ll try any of these looks!

Christmas in New York

Typically I am the one in the family that never wants to travel for Christmas. I like to stick to traditions. My mom cooks and brings majority of the food by my aunt, we do family kris kringle, eat, drink, and end the night with the good ole fashion game of UNO or Taboo. But after visiting my great aunt in September at her apartment in New York, I convinced the family that we should spend Christmas with her. Most of my family agreed and I planned the trip from there.

We flew through one of my favorite airlines, Delta and the tickets weren’t as outrageous as I thought they would be. We got to the Louis Armstrong airport at 5:00am on Friday. The airport has had a major face lift. I’m glad we are getting with the program of nice airports.

It was my little brother’s birthday so I booked us dinner reservations at Sons of Essex . What he didn’t know is that I booked him the birthday parade. Which included champagne, sparklers, a birthday sign, and a large sundae big enough to feed 6! The food was mediocre but the vibe, music, and customer services was amazing. I heard they had a bomb brunch so I definitely will be visiting again.

On Saturday I linked up with Shaq my photographer to get a few photos. He’s from New York and when I found out he would be there while I was there I was excited!! We got some great photos near Rockefeller Center. The Saks Fifth Avenue is dreamy.

Next we were hungry. I suggested my old faithful Chocolat in Harlem. It’s a black-owned restaurant with Red Velvet pancakes that will make you slap yo momma. I’m not that brave but you get the point. My cousin challenged me in a mimosa drinking challenge and ya’ll already know how that went down…”The Champ is Here”! The restaurant has bottomless for $20…don’t forget to drink your minimum of 6 to get your money’s worth…haha!

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We explored Harlem a little more by shopping, going to see the Apollo theater, and visiting Black Ink. That was also our last day taking an uber. Ubers are very expensive especially when you have a large group. It was time to thug it out with the Subways. It wasn’t so much the condition of the Subways I was worried about…it was the getting lost aspect but with my maps app I was able to conquer the world! *inserts evil villain laugh*

Sunday we caught the train to Black Tap in Soho. They are known for their delicious burgers and over the top milkshakes! I ordered the Texan Burger which was a prime burger with bacon, aged cheddar, a crispy onion ring, sweet baby rays bbq, and mayo. It was one of the best burgers I ever had. For dessert I got the Oreo Milkshake! Add this one to your list of places to visit!

Monday was the day I looked forward to the most! Museum of Ice Cream time!!! When we first arrived there was a line and coat check. I was extra happy to see the coat check. The staff had the perfectly bubbly personalities. When you arrive to the very first station, you are instructed to create your own ice cream name. There is also a wall of inspiration to help you out. I was Caramel Delight! They take about 15 people at a time into a room to explain the process and get you pumped up. The first room featured ice cream called Churro Churro. Omg ya’ll is was so good…my god-baby almost ate the cup too..haha. We went on for more ice cream tastings, cake pops, and a host of photo opportunities. I even slid down a slide to get to the next floor. Don’t worry there are elevators for the less adventurous people. Overall I thoroughly enjoyed my experience, however it was waaayyy too many people, especially kids lol. Considering we went a week after the opening that was expected. It’s definitely something kid friendly that you can do in New York.

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The sprinkle pit was super cute but don’t you dare jump in because they are hard. lol

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After the museum we went to America’s first pizzeria, Lombardi’s. The pizza was delicious, however it’s hella expensive. $30 for a pizza the size of a small. Oh and they only take cash, definitely old school.

My mom, brother, and I went on to Times Square where we saw the lights, watched street performers and my brother made me eat a hot dog off the street with him...he said “if I die…you die too”!

On Christmas Eve we returned back to Rockefeller Center for the Christmas Tree viewing and Ice Skating. My cousin and her daughter were the only two to ice skate as I am too old to be breaking these bones. I did get a few giggles watching others fall though. It was super fun but very crowded with tourist and cold.

On Christmas Day we visited Morton’s Steak House. This was my first time eating out at a restaurant on Christmas. I started with the Lobster Bisque, then ordered the special which was the Filet Mignon topped with Lobster Meat. The sides were Mashed Potatoes, Asparagus, and Creamed Spinach. Also I couldn’t leave without dessert. Their New York Style Cheesecake is the bomb! It was nice to just show up and not have to do anything. I did however feel a little bad for the people who had to work on Christmas. The good thing is, the restaurant didn’t open until 2pm so hopefully the staff got to spend the morning with their families. The food was delicious and service was exceptional. They even followed up the day after to see how our experience was.

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It was definitely a great idea to end the year with a family vacation for Christmas. How was your Christmas? Let me know in the comments below!

Confidence

If I had a $1 for every time someone told me they love my confidence, I would be able to quit my 9am-5pm. I legit hear it once a week. I use to get offended, like am I not suppose to be confident? But then I had to remember the world we live in. I don’t meet society’s standard definition of beauty because I am plus-sized. So when someone sees me exuding confidence it’s inspiring.

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The definition of confidence is a feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. What sticks out the most from this definition is “self-assurance”. Confidence starts with you! What ever you believe about yourself is what you’re going to exude. You can change your outer appearance and still be unhappy. It’s a mind thing. I’m sure we all have some insecurities but we should never let it get in the way of our happiness or ability to enjoy life.

So if no one has told you or you haven’t told yourself…you are beautiful, hella bomb, you are intelligent, you can conquer anything and you got it going on.

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I loved how this look came together. I picked up this super cute skirt (similar) from Forever 21 and paired with my Shein sweatshirt and leopard booties (similar) from Rue 21 which I’ve had for at least a year. Let me know what you think below!

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5 Pairs of Boots to Add to Your Black Friday Wish List

I absolutely love boot season! It’s my favorite time of the year and we’re finally getting some boot weather in Nola! If you’re a plus-size gal like me, you may have trouble finding cute over the knee or calf boots. But luckily you have me because I’ve found the cutest plus-size friendly boots to add to your wardrobe! I’ve also added similar styles for my straight size ladies below!

  1. The Snake Print Boot

Snake print can be treated as a solid color! Pair it with a dress like i did here or some shorts to really show off the boots! These boots are from Fashion to Figure, get a similar look for straight sizes here.

Snake print can be treated as a solid color! Pair it with a dress like i did here or some shorts to really show off the boots! These boots are from Fashion to Figure, get a similar look for straight sizes here.

2. The Black Flat Thigh High Boot

You can never go wrong with a black boot. These thigh highs are comfy and come from Forever 21. These can be paired with a mini skirt or jeans! Find a similar pair for straight sizes here.

You can never go wrong with a black boot. These thigh highs are comfy and come from Forever 21. These can be paired with a mini skirt or jeans! Find a similar pair for straight sizes here.

3. The White Bootie

This is a boot that can be worn all year round. You can definitely get away with wearing these in the summer. You can style them how I did here or with a nice blazer and some jeans. This pair can be found at Eloquii. Straight sizes can find a simila…

This is a boot that can be worn all year round. You can definitely get away with wearing these in the summer. You can style them how I did here or with a nice blazer and some jeans. This pair can be found at Eloquii. Straight sizes can find a similar pair here.

4. The Tan Boot

Like black, the tan boot can be paired with literally anything! Pair this boot with a cute fall dress and a denim jacket. These boots are from DSW. They carry a wide-rage of wide calf boots. Straight sizes can find a similar look here.

Like black, the tan boot can be paired with literally anything! Pair this boot with a cute fall dress and a denim jacket. These boots are from DSW. They carry a wide-rage of wide calf boots. Straight sizes can find a similar look here.

5. The Combat Boot

I don’t know what it is but something about a combat boot just makes me want to kick in a door! Just kidding…haha. Combat boots make any look super chic and cool. You can pair them with something girly like I did here or keep it simple. I purchased …

I don’t know what it is but something about a combat boot just makes me want to kick in a door! Just kidding…haha. Combat boots make any look super chic and cool. You can pair them with something girly like I did here or keep it simple. I purchased these from ASOS. Straight sizes can find a similar pair here.

Comment below and let me know which are your favorite boots!

Heavy Into Sets

I don’t know if I can pin point my style because it varies by my mood. I have come to realize that as I get older, comfort is what I seek out most. I am currently loving sets right now because it allows me to be comfy and chic at the same time. You can dress them up with heels and accessorize or dress them down with sneakers. Below you will find some of my “JD Approved” sets below for plus and straight sizes. But first check out my looks below!

My first set was found on Boohoo and what I love about Boohoo is that they ALWAYS have a sale! This set comes in 4 colors and is currently only $26.00! The top can be worn on or off the shoulder. I paired it with some olive green mules from Shoenami!

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My second set was a camo set from Shein and it was only only $23.40! I was finding all the deals. I paired it with a hat from Bee Trendi, a leather jacket from Fashion Nova and Asos boots. Sidebar: Ya’ll really don’t know how excited I was to find an inexpensive hat to fit my head…haha!

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Here are a few sets I am crushing on currently:

  1. Black Mixed Print Set (PrettyLittleThing) Pieces sold separately

  2. Velour Pants Set (FASHIONNOVA)

  3. Plus Size Beige Cable Knit Set (Missguided) Pieces sold separately

  4. Plus Size Slinky Ribbed Set (Boohoo)

This Is Me Being Transparent...Yikes

If ya know me….you know that I am typically someone who has it together at least I think I am..haha. I think it’s the Aquarius in me. I don’t sweat the small stuff, but as of lately a few things have transpired that legit through me off my game.

Well for one, my Granny died last month and it didn’t hit me until I got to the funeral. She loved to watch the NBA games, was a damn good cook and had an infectious laugh. I admit that I didn’t visit as much as I should but she never missed a graduation, birthday party or awards program. I guess I wasn’t around as much because my dad’s side of the family reminded me of him. I’ve realized that I am not truly over his death.

Then my stepdad has been sick and in and out of the hospital which is a lot on my mom. He’s doing better now but all of this was happening back to back.

But before those two incidents happened, I came to the conclusion that an event that I have hosted around the holidays for the last two years, wouldn’t be happening this year. The person I collaborated with just totally ghosted me after wasting my time for months. I made efforts to communicate but was ignored. I tried to pull it together at the last minute however, things weren’t going my way. Then the other day I saw that the person is doing an event on the exact day our event was suppose to take place.

I was hurt because this is an event I am passionate about. It wasn’t the fact that the person didn’t want to collaborate anymore….it’s that she wasn’t woman enough to have an adult conversation with me. I was also pissed…I was like nah sis gonna have to see me but I had to remember who I was. My family and friends had to remind me because I had forgot for a second. One of my friends advised me to use our good sis Bey’s mantra “Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper”, however I was ready to be Solange on the elevator! But I remembered who I was…

Drink Beauty

Drink Beauty

You’re a BOSS, not because you own a business but because of how you handle situations. You’re a boss because of how you treat others and build relationships.

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You’re an Empowerer. You genuinely encourage women to work together and collaborate. You’re a nice girl on the scene and behind the scenes.

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And most importantly, you are hella strong. You don’t let anyone take you out of character. You are hard worker and you are resilient!

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I want all of you to recite these same mantras to yourself if you are ever feeling off your game. Lord knows I had to repeat them many times. Remember who you are and never let anyone take you out of character.

Outfit Deets!

Suit Jacket | Pretty Little Thing

Suit Culottes | Pretty Little Thing

Heels | Asos

Purse | Vintage (From my aunt in New York)

Photo Credit : The Optimist Dreamer

It's My 4th Blogaversary!!!

Do you know what today isssss? It’ my Blogaversary! *cues Tony! Toni! Toné! That song never gets old. It’s been a great 4 years so far and I have enjoyed the journey! I have hosted a successful event called The Glitz Mix, I’ve hosted a series called The Creative Link Up Series and I have adopted the title of Professional Bruncher with my brunch reviews and monthly blogger meetups over brunch. I’ve learned a lot over the years and decided I would share the 4 Important things I’ve learned while blogging.

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  1. Success does not happen overnight.

The goal is most definitely success but hey it doesn’t happen over night. As a blogger we all want the thousands of followers because in our minds, more followers mean more brands and more ways to monetize your blog. What I’ve learned is that it’s better to have quality over quantity. It’s better to have engaging followers over a bunch of randoms. Susie from New Orleans who’s into fashion is going to go out and buy that dress you just posted and not Bob from Timbuktu. The followers will come…just be patient.

Besides with my little 2000+ plus followers I’ve gotten to work with a few brands and some were paid too chile! I especially had fun working with a brand called All Things Hair and attending Essence Beauty Carnival on their behalf! Check it out here.

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2. It’s Important to have a Tribe.

Women who empower one another….they do exist! I have always been the type to support and luckily I have been blessed with genuine friends who support me as well. Now I’ve had to let go of some foes but chile that is a topic for another day. Although I can talk to my friends about any and everything, I thought it was important to have a tribe of bloggers who could relate. For example, a doctor can tell me all about their day and how he or she cut a main artery in a patient but was suppose to cut …blah blah blah and I may be listening but I guarantee you another doctor will be able to engage and relate more.

The first two bloggers I connected with were Kineatra of NaturallyNex and Samjah of Style & Energy. The vibe was just really good and it inspired me to create The JD Brunch Series which is a monthly blogger meet-up. It’s been a year and a few months since the series has started and the tribe has been getting stronger. It’s a group of encouraging ladies and there isn’t any competition. No one is catty, (yuck, sidebar I can’t stand an insecure catty female…ughh Like why be jealous of someone’s winning season?! Your time is coming…chill sis…ok back to the post..) we support each others events and share information freely. It’s also great to have someone to vent to who understands the highs and lows of being a Black Blogger. Having that support system just makes the journey a little bit easier.

3. Blogging is expensive and time consuming.

Listen…ya girl done spent a pretty penny on clothes, photographers, and brunch over the years! This is a blog but it is also a business and you have to invest in your business. However, navigating through the years, I have learned how to spend smart. Most photographers will workout a deal based on the amount of times you shoot per month. There are also some who are looking to build their portfolios and are willing to collaborate. If I don’t receive clothing from a brand, I’m not shopping unless I have a coupon! Try to buy in bulk to save on shipping. Also the best coupons can be found around the holidays.

I have a 9-5, in a sorority and a couple of side hustles so finding the time to blog can be hard at times. Anytime I am not feeling motivated, I remember how much effort I’ve put into someone else’s business and realize I need to keep that same energy with my own.

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4. It’s okay to start over.

It’s okay to rebrand. I feel like every year I’ve added something new to my brand. I started off just wanting to do fashion and I have evolved into a Professional Bruncher, Event Curator, Social Media Content Manager and Lifestyle Blogger. The most important thing is to remain consistent and never give up.

I want to thank everyone who has supported me along this journey and I hope you will continue to rock with your girl!

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What I Wore!

Leather Jacket | Fashion Nova

Dress | Fashion Nova

Boots | ASOS

Purse | L’Jai Amor

Photo credit : The Optimist Dreamer

Manifesting is Real...But!

At the beginning of the year I gathered with my friends over some wine and tacos and we began creating vision boards. We discussed all the goals and dreams that we wanted to fulfill. Now I’ve created vision boards before and forgot all about them but this time seemed different. I don’t know if it’s because in the past I created them at various events just for fun whereas this time it was with friends and we got to genuinely discuss them and talk about plans of action.

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One of my main goals was to propel my blog to the next level. I wanted to become more recognizable to various brands. In order to do this I knew I had to rearrange my priority list as well as put in the work. I have a lot on my plate. I have my hands dipped in so many things from a 9-5 career, being involved with my sorority , event planning and I am the ultimate yes woman.

If I am invited somewhere or or asked to do something I am like sure. Chile I will rearrange my schedule just to be sure it’s squeezed in. But once I decided to rearrange my priority list, that all changed. Once I moved myself and my brand to the very top. I started to see the things that I manifested and included on my vision board.

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I went from no invites to anything last year during Essence to being booked by a brand called All Things Hair and invited to so many events that I had to skip some. Manifesting is real but are you putting in the work? Are you making a plan based off that Vision Board? Let’s make shit happen. Let’s make these dreams a reality. I am walking in my purpose stylishly of course and I want you to walk in your purpose as well.

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Top | rue21

Jeans | FashionNova

Shoes | Citi Trends

Purse | it’s fashion

Photo Credit: T.O.D Photography

3 Years in the Game

As I sat here staring at my my computer I encountered writers block. My friend asked what is this post suppose to be about and I said "my 3rd Blogaversary and I can't think of what I've accomplished". She said girl a lot, "The JD Brunch Series, you did the Glitz Mix, and this and that". It's funny that you don't always realize how much you've accomplished and how far you've come. We all need that reminder every now and then. I'm thankful for the family and friends who acknowledge hard work and have no problem reminding you.

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Britt Smith Photography-Jd Series-Anniversary 005

But 3 years has really flown by and when I look back I have accomplished several blogger goals. I wanted to:

  • Be more consistent with posting. When I tell ya'll it's a struggle. Most people don't know all the work it takes to get that pretty little picture. Plus I'm juggling a 9-5, event planning business, brand management business, etc. But I love what I do, I love blogging, I love fashion, I love inspiring confidence. So if I can put all that time into someone else's business I for damn sure can put it into my brand and business.

I also wanted to....

  • Have at least one fashion related event per year. I've been really consistent with my JD Brunch Series for influencers, Jessica(Justini Cocktails) and I made The Glitz Mix an annual Soiree and I have created a new Creatives Link Up Series so I am keeping myself very busy.

and.....

  • Start taking better care of my hair and trying new styles. I made an effort! I attended the What's Your Type? Natural Hair Affair, I've been trying twist-outs, and found a better wash-n-go routine.

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Now there is one goal I haven't mastered and that's make-up but luckily I have my good sis Ri Make Faces for that!

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Now I'm definitely not finished learning and growing but I think I'm on the right path. I've met so many girl bosses doing their thing and it's so inspiring. I've been putting in work and it can only get better from here. I just be needing a "Temperature Check" as my Soror Isaka would say every now in then to realize what I have accomplished and to pat myself on the back.

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 I also want to give a big shoutout to my family because they come through for me time after time. Here I am thinking that's just what families do but not everyone has that support. I am truly blessed and when I get "on on" I'll make it rain on them like the photo above! P.S. my photographer Britt did the damn thing with this shoot! See more photos below!

H-Town Ya'll Ready?!

My cousin and I decided to go see Queen Bey and Jay in Houston for the OTRII Concert. My cousin convinced me to fly with Spriti Airlines. With all the horror stories I've heard, I have to admit I was a little  nervous. Spirit prices are extremely reasonable. They make up their fees with baggage charges, preferred seat selections, snack purchases etc. Spirit allows you to bring one personal item on board for free. I  wanted to stay within budget so I forced everything in a bag I borrowed from my aunt. I was so proud of myself! Usually I travel with a personal item, carry on bag and bigger luggage. Now granted I was only in Houston for a day lol but you get the point. Give a sister her props.

Spirit Size Carry-On Bag

Spirit Size Carry-On Bag

The plane was actually bigger than expected, I had enough leg room and we had the sweetest and most hilarious flight attendant on the way back. Oh they also did a free flight giveaway.

For my look I wanted to do something extra fun, comfy and Coachella like. I decided on a Sequin Fringed Jacket (similar), White Tank, Black Ripped Denim Shorts, and some Lace Up Heeled Combat Boots. Let me know what you think in the comments.

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And shoutout to my cousin for these photos. You know that person that will get your photo no matter what…you know won’t huff and puff…that’s her. Thanks EEEE! We had so much fun at the concert.

Best Cousins

Best Cousins

Now ya’ll know I couldn’t travel to Houston without doing brunch. We linked up with two other cousin to dine at Phil & Dereck’s. It’s a black-owned restaurant that does a brunch buffet on Sundays. They had an omelet station, waffle bar, and $3 Mimosa Carafes…yes $3!!! The food and music was so good that it’s easy to forget you have a 2 hour time frame. It’s definitely the happening brunch spot so if you plan to go…go early because the line was almost wrapped around the block.

It was definitely a Sunday Funday! After brunch my cousin took us to The Address which is a sports bar/restaurant with a day party scene. The crowd is young and hip…definitely my type of crowd. The DJ was from New Orleans so he threw in a couple of N.O. Hits into the rotation. From Soulja Slim to Magnolia Shorty, he had the place rocking. We had so much fun that it was hard to leave.

For my look I wanted to be cute and casual. I through on this satin romper that I purchased last year from Forever 21 and my new favorite tennis shoes from Ego Official.

I’m the Shit !

I’m the Shit !

Overall I had a fun little weekend getaway. It was definitely needed.